If our bodies are built for pleasure, why is that so many of us struggle to enjoy sex? And how do we go about having a better time of it? In the first instance, not understanding the mechanics of your body — as married virgin Stopes found out — can massively hamper the pleasure you experience using it. Society frequently chastises youthful sexual exploration when we should valorise it. Masturbation is how you learn not only how to give yourself pleasure but how to teach someone else to give it to you.

Some things in life are better on repeat: Friends , perfectly sunny beach days, your trusty manicure. Your sexcapades, though? Definitely not one of them. Even the hottest spark in the bedroom needs new sex positions to stoke the flames from time to time—otherwise things get boring, fast. In short, your brain craves newness, and especially for women, your brain is very involved in your excitement and satisfaction. It can also work wonders for your relationship.

Kenedy Singer. Men tend to focus on sex. Women tend to focus on love. My ex is a lovely woman, whom I still love dearly. However, we had many challenges in our marriage.

There are countless books, instructional videos, and colorful diagrams devoted to answering the question, "How can I please my lover in bed? Chris Donaghue , sex and relationship therapist, podcast host , and author of Rebel Love. In the spirit of enjoying the ride, we asked experts to recommend the best sex tips for women.