The thought of having sex with a friend can sometimes seem like a fantastic idea. You go from just being friends, to having a drunken kiss, to having sex once and swearing it will never happen again Unless your life is a Nora Ephron film called When Harry Met Sally , we all know how that situation tends to turn out. Research shows that few people end up with their friend with benefits , and a lot of people lose that friend all together. As someone who has mistakenly slept with a friend or two in her life, there are certain things I wish I knew before I went for it. Here are some things no one tells you about sleeping with a friend, but oh, how I wish they would.

Nothing else in the world complicates things between two people like sex. Sex is so fraught with our most powerful emotions — love, lust, and jealousy — that it can make people totally irrational. If two people can avoid the common pitfalls, they can maintain and even strengthen their post-sex friendship. There are often two people who were once good friends, but after having sex, they begin to regret that they got intimate.

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